Two friends, two books, two aspects of adoption

I’m excited today to tell you about two books that were written by friends of mine.

The first is Adopt Without Debt: Creative Ways to Cover the Cost of Adoption by Julie Gumm.  I got the chance to meet her at the adoption conference I attended last fall, and she is a delight.  The story she tells in this book of getting debt-free and affording adoption in the process is inspirational.  And after telling her own story, she shares the stories of other families on similar journeys.  If you’re wondering how your family might be able to afford to adopt, this book might very well provide some new insight.  There were some great fund-raising ideas I’d never considered!



The second book is called No Biking in the House Without a Helmet and was written by Melissa Fay Greene.  (Melissa is also the author of There Is No Me Without You a must-read book among Ethiopian adoptive families.) This new book tells what happened in Melissa’s family after they adopted. Melissa is a gifted writer. As the title hints, the book is both humorous and real.  I devoured it in a couple of plane rides and very much wished it was longer.


Now, the really fun thing: both of my friends have given me an extra book to give away!   All you have to do to enter the drawing is comment below and tell me how adoption has affected your own life, whether it be in the past, present, or even in hopes you might have for the future.  I will choose two winners on Monday!



  1. I would love to win a book! We have two bio sons (age 6 and 3) and we adopted our 2 year old daughter from Korea when she was 9 months old. I know our family isn’t finished yet and we hope to adopt again someday- maybe an older child, maybe from Korea again- only God knows!

  2. brandy keen says:

    Wonderful books that I would love to read! We are beginning the process of looking into adoption now!

  3. If I won a book I would give it to my sister. She has adopted my two nephews. Both stateside adoptions, but both interracial. Now I can’t imagine our family without those beautiful, brown, baby boys!

  4. My husband and I adopted all 3 of our children. I would especially like to read the new Melissa Faye Green book. I’ve enjoyed everything I’ve read by her, and “There Is No Me Without You” had a real impact during our last adoption.

  5. I would love to read these books! My husband and I are currently praying about adopting and seeking the Lord.

  6. I would love to read the Melissa Faye Green book. I read “There Is No Me Without You” and absolutely loved all the insite! We have a bio daughter age 14 and a 6 year old son that came to us from Ukraine through adoption. What a gift from the Lord! We are currently waiting to bring home our son/daughter sibling set from Ethiopia!

  7. Thanks for hosting this giveaway! Both if these books sound really helpful. My husband and I want to adopt, although it will have to be a while in the future, since he’s a student right now. We have several friends who have or are adopting and we’re trying to learn what we can now. Many blessings!

  8. Katie S says:

    Both of these books look interesting. My husband and I hope to adopt in the next few years, probably internationally. In addition to simply enjoying children, our view of adoption has been influenced by John Piper’s adoption sermons and Russell Moore’s “Adopted For Life”. We don’t expect everything to be easy (or even turn out the way we expect), but our desire is to have a large family with kids that joined both through birth and through adoption.

  9. Brandie says:

    We are excited to expand our family through adoption. We finished our homestudy and now are waiting placement.

  10. I love the phrase “there is no me without you”…that is exactly how I feel about my husband and ALL of our children. Our biological children are 18,19, and 13 years old. Our adopted children are eight and four years old. We were foster parents through the Alabama Baptist Children’s Homes and adopted each of our little ones when their birth parent’s rights were terminated.

    This weekend we went to a local state park to canoe. As the little ones were swimming and giggling, I could almost hear echoes of our older children in the same place ten or more years ago. I feel like a shadow mother! Repeating the same beautiful memories with two unexpected blessings.

    The books would be a treasure to any of us who enjoy your blog!

  11. Amy Beth says:

    My husband and I have been married less than a year but we have talked about adopting since we starting dating five years ago! We are praying and seeking God’s will but are hoping to add the blessing of an adopted child (or a few!:) sometime in the future. I am an RN and it is my dream to use my skills somehow through adoption-possibly by adopting a special needs child. We’re excited to see what God has planned!

  12. God gave us five children through the miracle of adoption after loosing five through miscarriage. Each of them is a miracle and blessing. We have adopted domestically, through an agency, privately, and independently in Ukraine. I think we’ve done it every way it can be done.

  13. I have a very different adoption story…my husband and I adopted our first son (first born I gave birth to) and I have had three more children since th

  14. Adoption has always been a part of my life…my father was adopted domestically and we are now in the process of adopting our daughter from Russia. We leave soon for court…my husband, son and I are going together. I cannot wait…it’s been a looong journey! 🙂

  15. Sorry…. Though we thought we were adopting a “normal” child, we have dealt with nine years of doctor visits, multiple diagnosis’s (including mentally handicapped), and major behavioral issues. We struggle every day, though we love him and feel like he is part of our family…it is very frustrating and upsetting to have this added dimension in our home. We have learned, that not all adoptions work out as planned and the unexpected can happen and it’s a walk with God for him to show you his purpose and answers.

  16. Right now the only connection to adoption that I have is knowing other families who have adopted children, as well as adults/older kids who have been adopted. In the future, I hope to be open to whatever God might have in store for my fiance and I with adoption. That could mean a lot of different things, but I’m excited to see where God will lead us.

  17. We adopted our two boys from Ethiopia and Selemnah from Melissa Faye Green’s “There is No Me Without You” meant the world especially to my youngest. We have had a wild ride as we went from no kids to a very active 3 and 4 year old and it has been alternating between more fun than you can imagine and absolutely ready to lock ourselves away ever since!

  18. Tessa B says:

    My husband and I are hoping to adopt sometime in the near future. I am going to have to check out the adopting without debt book!

  19. We have adopted five and have four bios. I can not imagine my home without all nine. Thank you Jesus for my family. I now totally get the “There is no me without you”.

  20. We have two adopted daughters from China and are waiting for our third referral (China again). Adoption Without Debt would have been very helpful several years ago, though I don’t regret a penny of it. Would love some new ideas as we haven’t fully funded the completion of this third adoption.

  21. We are in the process of adopting from Ethiopia (actually chose Ethiopia after reading There Is No Me Without You). It’s been a long journey so far, and we have a ways to go, but I am so stinking excited to add more children to our family!

  22. I want both books!!! We have 2 sweet kiddos. 1 adopted, 1 bio. Have a current home study, so we are waiting for a daughter ( and some serious cash flow ) to complete our family.
    Many blessings!!

  23. We were blessed by adoption eight times over (four foster/adopt, one private dometic, three international). After being widowed for several years, my current husband (and his two beautiful bio kids) and I blended our bunch. Then along came a big surprise! #11! The current ages are 23, 17, 15, 15, 14, 12, 12, 11, 10, 10 and 2. Although it’s been years since our last adoption was finalized, I still love to read about adoption, as well as other people’s stories.

  24. My husband and I have 2 bio daughters (6 and 3) and are interested in learning more about adoption. Both books sound great!

  25. We have two bio daughters 23 and 21. When the 2nd left for college we became foster parents and adopted our now 4 yr daughter in 2009. We just started the process for a domestic adoption. I also have two teen nieces adopted from China as babies/toddlers.

  26. katherine says:

    great giveaway! we hope adoption impacts our life in the future — and “adoption without debt” would probably help my hubs see it IS possible for us! but, both books look excellent!!

  27. I would love to win. Thanks!

  28. We are in the adoption process right now of a little girl from Ethiopia. The waiting is torturous. 🙂 Thanks for the chance to win!

  29. We still consider ourselves “newly” married 🙂 It will be 3 years in July. My sister adopted first a baby boy from Ethiopia, and while there, they met their 2nd son, a 12 year old boy. I had always said “No” to adoption but my hubby had always mentioned it. We went off “the pill” to start trying and then started talking adoption again. We looked into it, and actually this afternoon we just finished our 2nd Home Study! We are both young and inexperienced – no biological kids – but hope to have a house full of adopted and biological kids someday! 🙂 We want to give our soon-to-be adopted daughter a chance to grow and be with us, just us for a little while before other kids come along.

    The main thing ~ God has really touched my heart, teaching me that I don’t have to be afraid. I am a very fearful person! I don’t know why! He is calling me to no longer be a luke warm Christian. Just because we are young, don’t worry about what others will think. (Believe me, some people think we’re crazy!) It’s worth it, to further the Kingdom and point all the glory back to Him. He first adopted us! We were once lost and abandoned, but now we live a life full of hope that we can pass along to others!

    We would love to read the 2nd book you mentioned. We are reading all we can get our hands on these days!


  30. P.S. Forgot to mention we are adopting domestically through DHS. 🙂

  31. What a fabulous giveaway! We are really hoping to adopt from Russia one day, or possibly Ukraine.

  32. Mindy Van Andel says:

    I am so excited for Julie’s book! I went to college with her. I have a special place in my heart for adoption. I am not an adoptive mom but I am a social worker and before becoming a mom myself, I had the distinct privelege of walking the road of adoption with many birthparents and adoptive families. What an amazing position to be in when a woman with tears in her eyes trusts me with her baby and then to turn around and place that baby in the arms of another woman with tears in her eyes and a prayer answered in her heart. There are just no words. Can’t wait to read Julie’s book!

  33. afamilieslove says:

    Adoption has completely changed the way I see families, and they direction our own family is going in. We adopted 3 years ago, and foudn after after arriving home our son has CP, so we then started down the long road of special needs and regular therapy visits. It has opened our eyes to the wonderful world of special children, and in a few years we will adopt again and will choose a child that is a bit more special, our children are so wonderful, such a blessing and will love to have another sibling to love on, the books would be great to help make it more affordable, and add some humor on the hard days!!

  34. Ali BG says:

    Oh how I would love a copy of Melissa Fay Greene’s book! Problem is how HASN’T adoption affected our lives?

    We didn’t have children before–now we have two boys.

    We blow bubbles and do sidewalk chalk in the driveway. We make snowmen and visit grandparents a LOT. We snuggle each boy with some warm milk every morning. We have memorized our parenting tapes, especially “I don’t respond to whining and complaining.” We find trains, cheerios and fire trucks under our furniture on vacuuming days. And, we eat home-made “black bean quesadillas” once a week, a food we could not have imagined eating “bb” (before boys).

  35. I would love to adopt someday. Not in the near future, but the future-future :]

  36. Oh, I would love to get either book. I have known that I was meant to adopt ever since I was 13 years old and God sent me a special dream. While at 23, I feel that I am still too young to adopt at this present moment, both my boyfriend and I have already decided that at least one of our future children will be adopted.

  37. Ahhh, I love your blog for these adoption postings. I am adopted myself. My husband was diagnosed with cancer soon after we were married. Treatment would cause sterility (testicular cancer). We adopted twin boys through an agency and 5 months later I discovered I was pregnant. When my kids were older (youngest was 7), I decided we weren’t done and we started the process of foster-to-adopt. We brought home twins (boy and a girl) in Nov. 2008. The house is full of love and lots of noise. The best life… 🙂

    (sorry, that was way too wordy!)

  38. We have adopted two little girls from China, one at 13 months and one at age 4. We often ponder the idea of adopting another child, we are particularly interested in adopting through the new HIV program. We also have 3 bio children. Our kids range in age from 6-19 so there is never a dull moment in our house 🙂 I would love the new Melissa Greene book. Supposed to be quite funny!

  39. Well my profile on my blog starts, adoption changed my life, made it better, sweeter…and it’s true it’s the best thing that has ever happened to me, I wish more people would listen to this call places in people’s lives, it is hard but it is a blessing.

    I have three children, one bio, two adopted from Korea, and can’t wait to see what God would have me do next.

  40. Bethany says:

    Our first daughter was adopted through the foster system. After having two biological girls, we are now renewing our license to begin foster parenting again! I would love to read these books!

  41. My family was changed forever by adoption!! We have 5 children (3 adopted) and I would love more-just don’t tell my husband 😉 Both books look great and I would really like to know how to afford another adoption. Thanks for the chance to win.

  42. My husband and I are blessed to be the parent of a precious 2-year old baby boy who we adopted from Ethiopia. We’re in the process of adopting again from Ethiopia, and can’t wait to bring another child home!

  43. We are blessed to have been brought to our 5th…and now our 6th!.. children through adoption! It has been an unspeakable blessing! As we work toward bringing our 6th child home (2nd adoption), we could certainly use tips on how to raise funds!

  44. Our lives are so blessed by adoption. We have bio twins (age 23) and two boys (adopted at birth age 8 and one in process of being adopted age 7) We are older parents. Life is wide open and I can’t imagine it any other way. God is so good all the time! I would love to read the books!

  45. Love Melissa Fay Greene. Our Littles came to us from Ethiopia and completed our family.

  46. Great giveaway! My husband and I are currently saving up money so that we can pursue adoption of our first child.

  47. Carolyn Fodel says:

    My father adopted me when he married my mom. I have several friends who have adopted, and am always amazed by their journeys!

  48. I want one!!! LOL! I am a Mom though adoption, foster care route. We were considering international adoption last year when we found out we were expecting again. We are huge advocates for open adoption too.

  49. I have a niece from Ethiopia (Love her!) and I hope to adopt some day.

  50. My grandmother was adopted at birth. She got to meet her full-blood sister a few years before her death. My husband has 2 sisters that are adopted. My husband talk about adoption being possible in the future. Right now he is attending school, but when he is done, it may be a possibility. We aren’t sure yet, but I believe that we will adopt a child sometime in the future.