5 tips for surviving a dIfFIcuLt day

We all have them. Days where the rain won’t stop and the kids have ‘tudes and the car breaks down and the house is a wreck, and your mood is as low as a turtle’s belly. You want to resign, or at least escape for a day. But of course that would involve finding a babysitter and making something easy for dinner and cleaning up the living room and dressing the baby and yourself and deciding where on earth to go for actual rejuvenation, if that is even possible. And let’s be real here: some days it is just impossible to escape. The only way out of your mood is through. Here are some of the ways that I power through when the day just seems too hard to face.

1. Pray, read a Psalm, and then turn on some uplifting music, preferably loudly enough that you feel the beat in your chest. (See: Mary’s Happy Playlist) Bonus points if you’ve got enough gumption to grab a kid or two by the hand and dance.

2. Clean up a tiny portion of your world, even if it’s just the living room or your kitchen sink.

3. Get dressed, put on your shoes, and take a 15 minute walk. Bonus points if you’re willing to go out in the rain. Your kids will love it. Stick the baby in the baby carrier, grab that umbrella, take your kids by the hands, and go!

4. Cook something yummy, and enlist your kids to help. If you don’t have the energy to let them help, that’s OK. ย  You can still keep them close by getting out the play dough or by letting them wash dishes with plenty of bubbles in the sink near you. (Bonus: your sink will get cleaner and you’ll end up mopping at least the part of the floor directly below the sink.)

5. Remind yourself of what’s good about this very minute. Sometimes the problems of a day can make you forget the blessings of the moment: a baby smiling up at you, a cozy home, the cookies in the oven, or the damp toddler singing at the sink. On really tough days, I sometimes find myself being thankful it’s only a few more hours til bedtime. Whatever it takes to help you find a smile and move you through your day.

Often I also find myself remembering my very favorite mothering verses: “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” and “I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.”


  1. YES!!! Thank you. I love your sense of humor about the damp toddler and music loud enough to feel the beat in your chest.

  2. love this post – you have good thoughts here. Wish I had read this yesterday! =)

  3. Kimberly says:

    All I can say is : “is today over yet?” : )

  4. TOTALLY needed this yesterday, but so glad I read it today. It’s good to know that others have difficult days and that sometimes it’s just impossible to escape. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. What good advice. Thanks.

  6. The title made me smile. I subscribe so I didn’t get this until today(the 4th), but yesterday was one of those days! Thanks for the smile and the reminder.

  7. # 1 is my go-to. Even if I have to lock myself in the bathroom to read!
    And dancing is how I get the grumpies out of my kids. It’s pretty hard to throw a tantrum and be grumpy when mommy is twirling you around and making silly faces!

  8. Good timing for this. Must be the weather.

  9. Kathleen says:

    Are you looking into my world! What a perfect blog for the very unPERFECT day I’m having! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you. Journaling my feelings is helping me too.

  10. love this.

  11. I’ve had a few days in a row like this so thanks for posting. I’m ready to run away from my house right now but I know that isn’t an option so I think I will do something fun instead and try to change the mood in here.

  12. One of my new favorite mothering verses is “He gently leads those who are with young.” I knew it from the Messiah, but when someone quoted it during Bible study and reminded us that WE are those who He is gently leading as we lead and care for our young, it just hit me. Awesome.

  13. Lovely post! Thank you!

    I also love that verse, Jennifer.

  14. Such great advice and ALL so, so true… Thanks for the reminders! Hopefully I can pull this up when I need it (WHEN!!) and use them ALL! ๐Ÿ™‚

  15. Thank you.

    We’re expecting our 10th in less than a month and I need and appreciate this post.

    Thank you!!

  16. What an encouraging post! I have 4 ages 6 and under, and sometimes those days roll around- days where life is just overwhelming. But, it always gets better ( : I love the suggestions!

  17. Sometimes we get stuck in a problem and we can’t get out from that… you have write nice tips for that…i think these will help us to make our day good…..


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