Adoption: What I’d Like for You to Know

I am very honored to be guest-posting today on the topic of adoption over at my friend Shannon’s blog! Thanks for letting me speak my piece, Shannon!


  1. It was great Mary! Thanks for sharing.

  2. Commented over there but wanted to come by here and also leave you a note.

    Great job and thanks!

  3. THANK YOU for sharing what all adoptive parents want people to know!! I just wrote about the exact same thing on my blog after a day of non stop adoption related rudeness. As my daughter gets older it is harder to shield her from comments( mostly from strangers) and I am trying to navigate her through the tricky waters of kindness to others, but not subjecting her to rudeness.
    I was so blessed to hear another momma who shares my sentiments exactly!

  4. Mary,
    I have been following your blog since your two girls came home from Ethiopia. My husband and I are starting the process of adopting from Ethiopia. Would you be comfortable sharing what agency you used? If you could email me that would be great. I so enjoy reading about your family. Being a homeschool mom myself, it’s so encouraging.


  5. what a great post. i cringe whenever i hear the media differentiate between “real” (aahh!) and “adopted” kids. it’s a ridiculous and hurtful distinction.

    thanks for such a thoughtful read.

  6. Well said. Our kids are simply our kids, however they come to us. Thanks for your voice. ~Heather, mom to four

  7. Wow! Found your blog via Shannon. Awesome post.

  8. Well written peice! I love love your site! I also love the way Marie Osmund handles the question, which of your kids did you give birth to? She replies, I don’t remember. Love it! I’ve always thought qualifying a relationship hurtful, whether it’s “adopted daughter” or “step-daughter” why make the distinction?

  9. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Articles like this benefit all our children. Much appreciated.

  10. Nicely done, my boys will not have this challenge. Although they will face others with being adopted. God qualitfies the heart, and that’s what shows most.

  11. Beautifully said! I sometimes forget which children I gave birth to and which ones I adopted- no kidding! I wouldn’t have it any other way šŸ™‚

  12. Great post!

  13. Beautiful post, Mary. I would have expected no less from you!

    On another note, there is a lovely lady at work who sits across from me. Well, I often hear her talking on the phone in another language. At first I thought it was French, but I speak French and after careful listening realized nope it wasn’t French.

    So I asked her. Turns out she is from Ethiopia and she is speaking Amharic! What a lovely and musical language! I love languages and I am always fascinated by the different sounds and inflections of each language. They are all so different but so similar at the same time.


  14. As a mom with bio and adopted children I truly appreciated your post. My husband and I are a bit older so we had to stop at 2 adoptions, but just the other day I said, “just one more??? Maybe a 9 year old girl from Ethiopia?” His response was not positive , but honestly, adoption is so wonderful that it is just hard to stop…if it is meant to be, then God will lay it on his heart. The first two are evidence of that. Just wanted to say how much I appreciate your thoughts. Many many blessings!

  15. I enjoyed your article. I hope to adopt someday šŸ™‚

  16. Mary thankyou for your post on your adoption story. I am an adoptive mom of 2 South African little boys.
    Joe is 3, he came home a 2 months old, and Jesse who is 2 , he came home at 5 months.
    My husband and I are from the UK but we now live full time in SOuth Africa and are running an organization called Project O. We care for over 150 AIDS orphans who are living with their auntie and grandmothers.
    We are white and our kids are African, living in SA with the history of racism is interesting! We are always subject of conversation and stares and you know what we probably always will be! It’s the way it is! not everyone is like minded and those who scoff and scorn are the ones who need to be educated…..I tell myself this every time i have a white south african stop and stare and turn their nose up at my baby, or when I get african women crash their shopping cart into shelves because they are staring at us!
    our children were OUR children even before God formed the earth.

    God bless you and your beautiful rainbow family!