Between yard work and OB work and the challenging work of parenting teens fluttering on the edge of the nest, I haven’t been reading lots of books lately. But two that I’ve read are very worth mentioning.
First off is an excellent book about relationships called Attached. This book is actually geared toward adults at two different stages of life: people seeking a marriage partner, and people who are already married but wanting to improve their relationship and learn to interact on a deeper level so that both partners can feel more satisfied in the marriage.
You’d think that dual focus might be hard to pull off, but actually the authors did a good job of thoughtfully addresses the challenges at both those points in life. The premise of the book is that most people tend toward one of three basic attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, or secure. These styles affect who you are drawn to in a marriage partner, AND how you mesh with your partner in a relationship.
This book contains lots of stories and illustrations to help you identify your own type as well as the tendencies of those around you, and gives good practical help for avoiding the pitfalls of each type, and working toward a secure style of relating to your loved one. I highly recommend this book for anyone from young adult on up to an ‘old-married’ person like myself.
Then there’s the most recent book I finished, The Boy With The Bamboo Heart. This book tells the story of an orphan who survived great struggles during his childhood in Thailand and then went on to found a children’s charity. There’s some language in the book, and some frank talk about the very hard things that happened to him. But the most memorable message in the book to me was the many places where kind adults intervened, gave him a chance, and helped him overcome his very difficult beginnings so that he could go on to become a productive, successful, and very kindhearted member of society. I couldn’t help but finish the book wanting to be just that kind of influence in the lives of kids around me.
I’m giving away a copy of this book here in a couple days. If it sounds like something you’d be interested in reading, comment below and tell me about a book that has inspired you to reach out to others and do more in the world. In fact, whether you’re interested in the giveaway or not, I’d love to hear any book recommendations you have along these lines.
And finally, here is a really great and encouraging article for mothers of strong-willed children: How to be the mom your strong-willed child needs