Archives for May 2017

Perfect for us

Recently I was wandering World Market all on my own, enjoying the peace, when I became aware of a young family also shopping.  Three preschool boys energetically spun around the axis of their slowly walking parents.  My first thought was of how much easier my shopping venture was than this mother’s.  And then I heard the voice of one of her little sons.

Enthusiastically stroking the length of a dining table, he said to his mother, “This table would be perfect for us!”

My heart clutched up, just from that one simple word: us.  Back in the hazy-crazy days of young motherhood, that’s how it was with our family too.  A solid cohesive ‘us’ was the center of our children’s lives.  Their happy place.  The place where they felt most secure.

Things change when kids grow.  Our married kids have their own ‘us’ now, created anew with the people they love and chose, and with their own children.  Our not-married young adults have a different version of ‘us’ these days too, more commonly encompassing friends and coworkers and roommates.

The day our oldest daughter headed off as a newlywed

Since our youngest two are still at home, they still use the word ‘us’ in that sweet way, asking what we’ll eat for dinner or when we’ll next go to the beach.  But even with them, things are beginning to change.  Their lives are more outward focused.

Nostalgia has me longing some days for those years when all of my chicks were in easy range, where they wanted nothing more than to be orbiting around me.  When ‘us’ meant they were all tucked into bed at night under the same roof. It was a precious time, in all its crazy chaotic busyness.

It is good and normal and right for our children to move outward and onward. To broaden their support system and welcome others into their closest circle.

Yet still connection also exists with us, and for that I am grateful.  Sometime it’s a skype chat with a son far away.  A late night call from a young adult needing a bit of advice. A Mother’s Day cake made with love.  A sweet note tucked into my lunch box. Texts back and forth about things monumental or mundane.  A visit from the grandkids with their mommas in tow.  A coffee date. Dinner together. A quick drop-by visit that ends up lasting an hour.

Though the moments are more scattered now, they are perhaps even more precious.  Each one represents the choice of a busy young person.  They have so many things to do, so many ways to spend their time.  And yet at these moments they are still choosing and affirming the ‘us’ begun so long ago.

The ‘us’ of years ago was perfect when our kids were small. But you know what? The ‘us’ right now (aside from my occasional momma-heart-twinges) is good and right and timely– maybe even perfect for us — now, in this new stage. We are counting our blessings.

 

Latest Stitch Fix

I haven’t done Stitch Fix lately, but when I saw I had some credit AND they waived the styling fee for one fix, I decided it was time to see what they had for summer. Wow, am I glad! They sent me such fun things!

Since summer is coming, and I’m not feeling especially svelte right now, I requested cool loose summer styles and they did a great job finding things that I like and that feel like thinhttp://owlhaven.net/wp-admin/post.php?post=26916&action=editgs I would really wear.

Item # 1 is the Janet Bermuda Short by Liverpool.  It is a stretchy pair of denim shorts (shown in all three photos) that I could picture myself wearing tons this summer.The denim has Lycra, and the shorts have a soft wide waistband. Super, super comfy. And of course denim is as versatile and practical as you can get. I am strongly leaning toward keeping these. Actually, I’m wearing them right this second.

Item #2 is the Fun2Fun Clybourn Scoop Neck Top, on the left in the photo collage below.  Loose and comfy, I really liked this top.  The armholes are a little deep.  But Stitch Fix now has a deal where you can exchange clothing for different sizes (when available) and I am considering requesting a smaller size to see if it addresses the armhole problem.  I also wouldn’t mind if it were just a bit less big in the tummy area.

 

 

 

Item #3 is the LeLis Yeaton Cowl Neck Knit Top. It is one of my favorite colors and is I think reasonably flattering. It is also made is a very soft silky knit. The cowl makes the neckline just a little fiddly, and there is also a fairly large vee in the back that I am not super sure about. But I think this top would be nice for summer, and for fall and winter layered under a jacket or cardigan.  It is definitely classy looking enough that you could really dress it up if you wanted to.

Item #4 is the Jella C Lace Bib Top.  It is possibly my favorite top in the batch, as is is feminine and (again) a favorite color for me, and feels more dressed up than a tee while still being very comfy. It does again have some armhole issues, and is NOT available in any other size. But I think I could do 10 minutes of tweaking/tailoring on the sewing machine and make it absolutely perfect.

The fifth item was the Shiraleah Porter Tote, a soft leather bag in taupe. I don’t truly feel like I need another bag, so I am leaning toward returning it. But as usual, there’s a 25% discount if you buy all five items. So if I do decide to keep the other four things it makes zero money sense to return the bag.

What do you think I should keep?  If I kept only two things it would probably be #4 and #1 …but I honestly like #2 and #3 quite well also.

Stitch Fix is a personal shopping service that picks clothing for you based on a questionnaire that you fill out.  You can also share your Pinterest clothing board to give your stylist more ideas of what you like. You can order a fix as often or as infrequently as you like.  Each fix consists of five items for which you pay a styling fee of $20. That $20 styling fee applies toward any item you keep.  Keep what you want, and send whatever you don’t want back in the prepaid envelope that comes right along with your fix. Easy peasy. Click on my referral link to order a ‘fix’ of your own. For extra fun, when you sign up and refer someone else, you’ll get a credit that applies toward your NEXT fix.  What fun!