For the wedding

Whew! I made it (almost) through week two of orientation. Monday I actually got to do just a little patient care, which was really fun. I didn’t realize how much I’d missed helping women in labor. Then Tuesday and Wednesday was a fetal heart monitoring class, which turned out to be very doable. My first bubble test in a whole lotta years and I got a 90%. 🙂 Somewhere along the way I also finally (4th try) whipped that FEMA test, the silly thing. All that’s left for this work week is a 4 hour breastfeeding class tomorrow. Piece of cake. 🙂   The kids are hanging in there just fine–but it will be nice to have Friday through Monday off and then only 3 days next week.


But I’m actually writing here today because I need some clothing advice, or maybe some completely new ideas. You may remember that our oldest son Jared is getting married to his lovely Erika in July.  So exciting! I’m hunting for a mother-of-the-groom dress that blends with their wedding colors.  It is an outdoor evening wedding — not super formal–and is likely to be quite warm.  Above are a few of the dresses that have caught my eye.

This first one on the left isn’t available in my size, but I have included it because I’d love to find something similar.   Next up is one that might be a little short, comfort-wise, but I like the scoop neck, the simple elegance, and the pattern of the fabric. The one in the center is another that looks simple and elegant. The 4th one is very feminine and pretty, but I am afraid that on a not-teeny frame it might look too frumpy — something I do NOT want to be.  I like the final one a lot, but of course there’s always the question if it would be flattering to me.  Who knows?

Anyway, I’d love opinions on what you think might be pretty and elegant, as well as any hints about places to look, or dresses you’ve spotted that might also fit the occasion. I think maxi dresses are flattering on me, but if I went that route it would need to look like a maxi dress not a true formal. Figure-flattering, but not too showy or low cut. It is SO tricky to find something lovely, flattering, and age-appropriate.




  1. I love the last one by far the best! I also like the middle one.

    • I think the middle one is my favorite, but I do love the last one. The last one is just a little more formal. Maybe you could add these to your stitch fix profile and could hope to get something from them?

  2. Love the middle one for you!

  3. I love the last one for you.

  4. Congratulations on getting back into baby welcoming. I think that would be an awesome job. I love the 4th dress for the sheer over fabric and ruffle at the bottom, I always think the sheer overlay is a very feminine look. I also like the last dress very much and think it would look great on you. Pictures of you in them would also be helpful.

  5. Congratulations on all counts! I like 3, 4, and 5 with a couple of exceptions. I’m not fond of sleeveless personally but I love the styles/shapes of 3 and 5. #3 may or may not be too short (hard to tell in the photo). I really like #4, feminine, light, airy, swingy for dancing 🙂

  6. Woohoo! Way to go on your tests and first week! 🙂

    I think these are lovely dresses. Hard to choose! I like 1, 3, + 4 the most.

    I just did a basic search on Pinterest for “plus-size navy dresses”. I don’t think you’re plus-size, but it was helpful to see styles on models who aren’t petite. There were several nice options that popped up. Maybe you might find something there?

    This one caught my eye:

  7. I would be more concerned with how a dress photographs. Navy and white prints and deep navy can inadvertently create a focal point or black hole respectively. Be sure you know and like how you photograph in the dress before buying! (Be especially aware of how your bare upper arms photograph when you are standing sideways, a common angle for mother of the bride/groom in posed photos. It’s not uncommon for an upper arm to be visually larger than your face at that angle.) Have fun shopping!

  8. Middle dress! For pictures they will keep forever, Classic is always best!

  9. First and last for sure!!! The last would be beautiful and slim your whole body by focusing on your shoulders! I love it! Long is def a must for mothers of the wedding party! (Plus you can go bare leg and be cool with out even shaving!! Lol)

  10. I Think the last one will suit you the most . Also the 3rd one as second choice.

    Hope this helps

  11. Dress 1 or 3! I just had my first experience with mod cloth– The dress in my size was out of stock too, but I put in a request and they had it to my door in less than 3 weeks. It fit exactly as described too.

  12. Lands’ End is always my go-to place for dresses that fit and flatter and are modest (sometimes with the help of a safety pin to keep the surplice necks together). I love that I can order a few and return the ones that don’t work for me to Sears without the expense of mailing them back.

  13. I like the last one the best.

  14. Jennifer O. says:

    I actually like the timeless look of #3. You also look cute in knee length, I just so happen to have seen you in them 🙂 Take a look at this maxi I found. I liked the draping on the top and it is a maxi. Maybe a lovely necklace with it? Not sure if it is too casual, but I love that you can wear both of these dresses at any other occasion as well.
    You look lovely inside and out no matter what you wear! Happy shopping. I’ll keep my eyes open for you. Now, what are I going to wear…..

  15. While I quite like the first one, I’m not sure if it is dressy enough for a wedding even if it is an outdoor evening one. #2 is kinda busy and might make a non-stick-figure form look a little wide. The third one does have a classic timeless look, and could be dressed up with some colorful jewelry, but it also seems a little bit boring. I think I like the 4th one best for the scenario you described, and I notice it is significantly less expensive than the last one, but #5 is also quite lovely. The sheer sleeves of #4 would still keep it cool but yet not leave bare arms exposed (which do not always look flattering in pictures that you will keep for a lifetime) plus it is dressy yet still casual enough for later wear, and it has the cute swishy hemline. It also seemed more summery than some of the others, probably because of the greater quantity of white. All that rambling to say I think I like #4 best.

    I did not look up all of them, but I saw the last 2 at least offered free shipping. If the budget can handle the outlay, perhaps you could order them both and try them on to see how they actually look? Online photos and reality experiences are not always the same… LOL.

  16. Oh yeah, and congrats on finally kicking that FEMA test. If you can’t do that breastfeeding class in your sleep, something might be wrong with the answer key. 🙂

  17. I really like the middle one — could be dressed up even more with jewelry, shoes, etc. The last & first are also lovely. I love the length of the first & last one but I’m thinking the last style might be challenging if you’re at all “busty.” You will look lovely in whatever you wear. I’m sure your joy will shine through and be the best accessory of all!

  18. I’m a fan of pattern/movement of a solid color and for that I like the last one the best in pattern but I like the style of #2 better. But I’m wondering about the length of #5. Would it maybe be too hot for outside in July? Have you looked at Kohl’s? A quick search and I found these 2, you know, cause I like to add to your choices! haha,

  19. I would go for the 2nd or middle dress, then make it pop with a brightly-colored statement necklace and brightly colored shoes. No frump about some bright yellow, or mint green, or deep red, or fuschia accents!

  20. Kaycee Fisher says:

    I guess I am a tradionalist. I don’t like to see prints on anyone at a wedding, let alone a family member of the bride or groom. I’d go with the one in the middle.

  21. Tiffany R says:

    I think the middle one is the nicest one for a summer wedding. It is simple and elegant but not too dressy. And it is something you can wear again and again. That one gets my vote!

  22. My mother-in-law-to-be (78 days!!!) bought a very lovely, simple navy dress from Nordstrom. It was pricier than my style!!, but maybe Nordstrom Rack? There were several different, similar styles in nice colors similar to here.


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