Book giveaway!

In Ethiopia with our two youngest daughters


I haven’t done a book giveaway for awhile, and I’m really excited about this one. The book is called More Love, Less Panic: 7 Lessons I Learned About Life, Love, and Parenting After We Adopted Our Son from Ethiopia.  Claude Knobler and his wife adopted their son  just five months after we brought our first Ethiopian daughter home, and a year before we brought home our second daughter  (pictured on the right).   So it was really interesting to read about their experience in Ethiopia, and also about his parenting journey since then.  As it turns out, his book is more about parenting than it is about adoption.

While reading the book, I found myself nodding (sometimes ruefully) because so much of what he’s learned is also part of my own learning curve.  So often early on in parenting I think we see it as our job to somehow ensure that our kids will be successful by making all the right parenting choices.  And then we discover that they’re already so much their own people (especially when we adopt them past infancy) that our best hope is simply to influence them.

I really enjoyed this book, and I’m excited to have two copies to give away.  If you’d like to win one of those copies, just comment below and tell me something that you’ve learned along your parenting journey.  Or if you prefer, you can share something that you vowed you’d never do as a parent.  (Do you find yourself slipping up and doing it anyway?)  Parenthood is such a learning journey, isn’t it?  For an additional entry, ‘like’ this post (using the buttons below) on facebook or twitter and then comment again, telling me you shared it.  I’ll pick a winner on Friday!

 

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  1. Parenting is not about raising a little ME no.2, it’s about letting a new spirit come to life and blossom.

  2. Tricia Sayre says:

    Am in the middle of reading your book and am loving it!!!! Am recommending it to my foster care and adoption community. I’ve learned 2 really important, life changing things through adopting our twin 10 year old girls….first, the need to stay regulated myself and how to do that and secondly, you have to work through your own baggage if you’re going to help your kids unpack theirs.

  3. I’m also in the middle of reading your book- during nursing sessions with my oft-waking fifth child! I have learned that you have to parent each child differently- and that you really have to choose your battles. Many things I thought I would not give into, I now think, Is this really worth the power struggle? Often, it’s not.

  4. Liking on Facebook. By the way, I am really enjoying Forever Mom right now. I even bought a copy for a friend :-).

  5. I’ve learned that playing with my son is one of the ways he feels most loved. My words to him are important, but he prefers play right now

  6. Don’t get pulled into the cycles of drama!! Easy to think…so hard to do!

  7. I find that I yell more than I should and I always said I wouldn’t 🙁

  8. I’d never allow TV before two. Yeah that didn’t last long. We monitor it but I ate those words.

  9. I have two littles (almost 3 and 6 months) and we are thinking about adoption to grow our family in the future. But this far in being a mama I have realized that my children’s behavior does not affect my value in God’s eyes. That doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t teach and train my kids, but I shouldn’t be super sad or angry if they disobey. I sin as well, I just don’t throw myself on the floor 🙂 (Though sometimes I want to!)

  10. I’ve learned that you can’t always parent equally. Each child is different and “equal” looks a lot different than I expected. Each child needs different things at different times.

  11. Crissy Stokes says:

    I would love a copy of this book.
    I have learned that a lot of behavior disappears with maturity. Some of the things kids do are typical developmental phases. Learning more about consistent meals and consistent naps for little ones helped me a lot too.

  12. Crissy stokes says:

    I shared this on facebook

  13. I have learned to use my children’s love languages.

  14. My children are not the same. What works with one will usually not work with te

  15. My children are not the same. What worked with one will not always work with another. I am still learning how to cater discipline and quality time to invividual personalities.

  16. Something I’ve learned in parenting (bio and foster children) is it’s actually really hard and I MUST run to God continually! It sure helps me get a better glimpse of how forgiving and loving He is with me! Thanks for the giveaway!

  17. My boys are now 20 &17 and one of the most important things I’ve learned is you have to let your children make their mistakes and face the consequences of their decisions.

  18. Shared on FB!

  19. Even when it feels like everything you do is the wrong choice, and the child doesn’t seem to be grasping anything you are trying to teach no matter how you come at it, God’s grace covers it all and the child generally turns out alright in the long run. Just know you’re doing the best you can and cut yourself a break.

  20. I’ve learned that parenting is about relationship, not formulas. And that God can do amazing things in spite of what seems to be our failures!

  21. I’ve learned to be patient and helping my children learn – rather than trying to “teach”.

  22. I’ve learned to listen to them. I’d love a copy, sounds great!

  23. Tina Zimmerman says:

    I have found out that parenting isn’t for the faint of heart! And I keep reminding myself ONE day at a TIME!:) I am adoptee and we have two wonderful sons who were born for us!:)

  24. As a parent one of the most humbling things I’ve learned is to God seriously when he says that he delights in his children — knowing he knows my sin even more thoroughly than I know my children’s and yet he delights in me, makes me very convicted if my own pettiness when I have trouble delighting in my children.

  25. The solution is often extra love. 🙂

  26. We have 2 bios and 2 adopted. I think they all are teaching me more than I am teaching them somedays. I always thought I would be teaching them and I never realized how much about myself I would discover. While I am still teaching and guiding them, as we are called to do, God is growing me much through them far more than I ever considered.

  27. I always thought I would have the perfectly spotless house at all times. Now with 6 kids living life in this house, it’s not at all as clean as I thought it would be. I have learned to give myself grace and be content with toys on the floor and dishes in the sink. If the wash doesn’t get done today, it will still be there tomorrow and the world won’t end because it took an extra day to get folded and put away. I will take a day at the park with my kiddos over scrubbing the floors any day of the week.

  28. I know but find it hard to practice when I most need to, is the less said the better with teens…I find myself reacting, taking their attitudes and emotions so much more personally as they get older. Physically the younger years are exhausting and challenging, but I am finding the teen years mentally and emotionally challenging, beyond what I expected ( and my kids are good kids!)

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