Forever Mom: What to Expect When You’re Adopting (and free wall art)


My new book!

I wanted to tell those of you who are interested a little about my latest book Forever Mom: What to Expect When You’re Adopting.  It is coming out on October 28th, and I must confess to a crazy mix of excitement and tremulous nerves about this book.  My greatest longing is that it will encourage and equip moms along this adoptive parenting journey.

This book is very vulnerable, a true window into my heart as an adoptive mom.  There’s been so much joy– adoption is an incredible gift– but also much struggle, much lurking fear that I wasn’t doing this hard job well enough. But praise God, He’s been strengthening and growing me all the way. Even as I wrote about our journey, God was gifting me with more growth, more compassion for my precious ones, and a greater ability to more clearly see my own personal ‘stuck’ points. I’ve come to a much better place as a mom, better at releasing my desire to control outcomes and speed healing and growth, instead leaning on God’s providence in my kids’ lives as well as my own. But wow, it has been a long hard path. I hope that sharing my struggle will help other moms know they’re not alone, and that there is a way through difficult waters.

If adoption is a topic that interests you or you’d like to read more of our story, I hope you might consider pre-ordering Forever Mom?  If you know me, you know I feel really funny about doing the pushy sales-person thing. But in the publishing world, all pre-release sales on amazon are counted as first-day sales of a book. It really helps a book gain more attention (and more orders in stores and from libraries) if those first-day sales are strong.  I’d love for this book to be widely available to prepare moms before adoption and to come alongside mommas who may be struggling, letting them know they’re not alone.

And here’s some really fun news– everyone who buys Forever Mom before November 4th gets some neat freebies!

  • Freebie#1– A little e-book I’ve written called ’50 Things Adoptive Parents Should Know’
  • Freebie #2- 8 custom Forever Mom downloadable prints for framing  (see samples below)
  • Freebie#3- all 8 of those same custom prints as phone lock screens/screensavers!

To get those freebies, just send proof of purchase (ie- receipt, order confirmation, etc) to, and the free package will be emailed to you.

Here are some additional ways to support this book:

  • Mention FOREVER MOM on facebook or your blog
  • Pin this post on Pinterest, mentioning the freebie
  • Request FOREVER MOM from your local library
  • Give it as a gift to adoptive families that you know

Feel free also to share the video and graphics below, either on your blog, pinterest, or on facebook.  Thanks so much for your support!!

Remind them how precious they are






  1. Congratulations! I look forward to both reading and recommending your book.

  2. I am so looking forward to this! Your honesty, insights and experiences will be so valuable to so many! Congratulations!!

  3. Just ordered 2 copies: one for myself and one for a friend who is a new adoptive mom. I am so excited about this book!

  4. Mary, everything that you write is so full of grace, I can’t wait to read this. I am gifting it to a friend who recently adopted three siblings out of child protective services. And I requested that my library purchase a copy as well. I am sure that the fruit of you being willing to share your journey will be worth the effort. I am grateful for what you have shared here at owlhaven, about parenting and journeying together toward the Lord. You are a great encouragement to me in my efforts and I want to thank you for taking the time to do it.

  5. ordering it right now! we have fostered a little girl since birth. she is 3.5 and in january her adoption should be finalized….we are also fostering her wee 1.5 year old brother. also from birth. i look forward to reading your book as i am always yearning for encouragement and strength from others on this crazy journey.

  6. I just ordered 2- one for me and one for a friend. This comes at the perfect time!! Our son has been home with us for nearly 4 years, but I still have lots of learning and growing to do. It’s easy to forget after a time of things going so well that there was a time when he wasn’t with us. But there was and so there’s still catching up to do. Still work to do.

  7. Great to find your site. My husband & I are currently in Brazil adopting 2 boys (in addition to our 3 bio). The days are long right now, but finding strength in Him and encouragement from others. 🙂


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