What I want our kids to take with them

JGirlsRon (640x427)In the middle of the minutia of parenting– the ‘did you take a shower today?’ and ‘eat 2 pieces of apple with your grilled cheese’ and ‘no pinching–use your words instead’ and ‘is that the same shirt you wore yesterday?’— it can be easy to lose sight of the really important stuff, the stuff that I pray our kids will stride into adulthood carrying deep in their bones.

JBabies (640x427)The willingness to work hard, to sacrifice on behalf of someone else, to see a need and fill it without being asked just because it’s right.

The ability to set aside a current ‘want’ for a more important long-term goal, to avoid being endlessly consumed with the desire for better, newer, bigger.

An unbreakable fidelity to family, a deep treasuring of the ones God put with you to share the journey of life.  The ability to really enjoy each other, and to decide to do so even when disagreement happens and folks don’t behave exactly how you want them to.

MomJulSThankfulness for what God has given you. Always thankfulness.  Because in thankfulness lies contentment.

And most of all a deep unbreakable faith  in the God who sometimes allows sadness and suffering but who never lets you go, a belief that there is something greater beyond this old world, faith that someday all tears will be wiped from our eyes.

What would you add to this list? What dreams do you have for your precious ones?



  1. Thank you! This is beautiful and a much needed reminder today!

  2. Christine says:

    Nice post.I want to know that we are raising two children who will grow up to be good people,always strive to do the right thing and be their own person.

  3. People often ask how I have raised such nice children: I reply, “I pray daily they will become functioning members of society, not be violent to themselves or those around them, not do drugs, not sleep around, and find peace in their lives with their beliefs and how they choose to live.”
    After a cancer diagnosis of my fifteen month old a decade ago, I do not allow myself to dream about what I see my childrens’ future being. As I was shaving her head all those many years ago I realized that I had not even had time to forumulate what dreams I had for this new little one in my head and already they probably would have to be different. But now I realize that the dreams I may have had would not have been the ones God has for her which are certainly better than mine any day. By the way, she celebrates 13 years in remission next month!!!!!!!!!

  4. Mary,
    Great thoughts. So great in fact that I forwarded them on to my two boys so they don’t think I’m the only “crazy” parent. 😉 Thanks for the uplifting view on life. Perfect for the hope of the Easter season.

  5. YES!! But how? I feel like I’m a couple steps behind them all the time…

  6. So good! The last one is most important and of course with that in place, the others are possible and even likely.
    There’s always sibling jealousy. I do my absolute best to treat each one the same, but whenever there is a difference (real or perceived), I say things like, “But if you truly love your brother, why are you so bothered that he may have gotten something you didn’t? Can you be happy for him?”
    (I’m really subtle, as you can see. 😉

  7. Oh this is a good post. I would agree with all of these whole hardly! I love every one but i resonate with “The ability to set aside a current ‘want’ for a more important long-term goal” the most. I hope our kids learn contentment and happiness doesn’t come through STUFF. Thanks so much!