This morning I happened to hear a snippet of radio conversation where a mom was sharing the sweet praise her 12-year-old daughter had written and gave to her on a valentine yesterday. The DJ speaking with the mom congratulated the mom on such a cool kid and said, “Good job. Obviously you’re a great mom.”
Well, here’s a reminder for the mommas out there whose teens and preteens didn’t all shower you with love and appreciation on Valentine’s Day. Don’t judge yourself by your children’s choices. Give yourself grace. Sure, parent with the best wisdom possible. Guide them as best you can. But remember your children have free will, minds of their own.
Their choices — whether tiny ones like giving (or not giving) mom a valentine, or big ones that could mess up their lives for a good long time—those choices ultimately are a reflection on them, on their hearts, and where they are on their own personal journey.
Sometimes our very best efforts will not yield the results we long to see. Not yet anyway. That doesn’t make us bad moms; it simply means we’re doing our best while parenting imperfect, struggling souls in an imperfect world.
You are a treasure to God, whether or not you got sweet words of thanks from your kiddo yesterday. Good job, mom. Keep being faithful even when you don’t see fruit. He sees every tear, hears every prayer, notices every sacrifice you make on your child’s behalf.
“….being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6