Except it’s just my normal life

The other day I was at the grocery store with my two youngest daughter. Down the aisle toward us came a couple with two preschoolers. One was crying and the other was whining.

The mom looked at my girls, who were being quiet at the moment, and as she was passing me, she caught my eye and said, “Want a couple more?”

I laughed. “No, I’ve got ten already!”

She and her husband both stopped in their tracks and turned to stare at me.

“Ten kids?” she said. “Lady, you are crazy!”

I laughed, and continued to chuckle as I walked away.  I was enjoying the idea that I’d probably given her a vastly different perspective on her own lot in life.

It took me a full minute to realize that some people would be insulted to have been called a nut job in the middle of a crowded grocery store by a perfect stranger.

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  1. Awesome, I can picture her face now, made me smile just thinking about it.
    You deal with what you have in life, you are awesome with 10 and she is doing her best with 2.
    Keep making them smile

  2. I get comments like that all the time, and I only have 4 kids! One lady told me that I should “keep my legs shut the next time”. Most of the time, though, people are much more positive than that.

  3. Love it! I have five, which also stuns people, believe it or not.

    I admire your choices in life…

  4. Thanks for making me laugh after having just spent the afternoon working on my taxes.

    I would love to have seen her face and listened in on their conversation.

  5. i get those kind of comments. I tell them it’s a requiremnt to be half off the wall to belong to the family to begin with.

    I love it when my youngest goes to the store with me for Tday dinner and it takes 4 over flowing carts to hold it all and some one will ask if we are feeding a church group or something and my answer is no, just the grandparents, kids and grandkids.

  6. I’m from a family of seven kids and it was always fun to freak people out. One of my uncles actually said to his friend (in front of all of us!) “My sister has 7 kids…all from one husband!” Haha…

  7. Mom of 10 here too. I love to throw the number of my children out over my shoulder and keep walking. If I do look back, they are ALWAYS still standing there. LOL!! I love it!!

  8. That is a great story. I have four kids and my sister-in-law has nine and I have no idea how many grandkids she has now. She is about 9 or 10 yrs my senior. Once when the kids were younger they were in a restaurant and a couple in another booth started talking somewhat loudly about how horrible it was to have so many kids. Two of her boys walked over and say, “So which one of us do you think our parents should get rid of?” They about yelled it according to Sharon but the couple shut up!

    Some people are rude and your reaction was wonderful – Kids are a blessing from God!

    • I love it! How true! And right from the child’s mouth! LOL! We have soon to be nine and get stupid comments all the time. I just smile and say how wonderfully blessed we are!

  9. Ah, Mary, you are my favorite “nut job” to read. 🙂

  10. I “only” have 5 but I love it when I get the crazy comments from strangers…sometimes I just give them a funny little chuckle so they walk away thinking I really AM crazy but the best comeback yet was when a lady in Target says to me, “Honey- Bless your heart!” (Which is just a more polite Southern way of saying “crazy”. I looked right back at her and with the biggest grin, said, “Oh- He certainly does!!!” Love your blog, btw!

  11. I certainly get a perspective check when our 3 foster kids are gone for the weekend and we only have our 2 bio. kids (age 5 & 3). Life is sooooo easy – and just a year ago we were exhausted with only those 2. 🙂 Our 17YO foster daughter joking refers to our 12-passenger van as the “short bus”.

  12. We have five under 7 and it always throws me off to go out with just one or two and not get all of the questions from people!

    I’m also amazed at the standard list of comments people make and how I can almost say, “Oh, that’s comment #3 on the top ten list”.

    (It is a shame that only 1 or 2 of those are ever positive, though.)

    But we know they are a blessing from the Lord, don’t we?

    He has big plans for these kiddos and we get to watch Him work in their lives!

    Thank you for the consistent encouragement to enjoy our families, just as they are, Mary!

  13. Yes I am getting a lot of these comments as I’m currently pregnant with my 4th baby in three years. A lot of people have been very positive though, which is a blessing.

    By the way I have cooked several things out of your cookbook this past week, and all of them have been very good and my family loves them.

  14. Amber Howard-McGinnis says:

    My least favorite comment I hear is, “oh, you’ve got your hands full”.(I have 3 kiddos, under 4 yrs.) Much like the term “working mother”, I find this a rather banal statement. EVERY mother works, even if she doesn’t have a job outside the home, and EVERY mother has her “hands full” even if she only has one child.

    My favorite comment, I got from a checker at a grocery store. He asked if I needed help out with my groceries (and kids) and I said “no, thanks anyway.” He replied “oh, Supermom, huh?”. : ) So now every time I come in the store he calls me “Supermom.”

  15. We recently went to Disneyland where there are lots of kids running around. I didn’t think we would get comments, but sure enough….every time we got on the elevator people would comment, “What a troop!” I just smiled and loved it. I thought wait till we come back next year with our adopted Ethiopian daughter. Then I will get more stares and comments…oh bring it on! They don’t know what they are missing. I have the most joyful world and I wouldn’t trade it!

  16. It amazes me how many parents are willing to want to ‘give their children away’, but they won’t take the time to train them properly in the first place.

  17. I, too, have 10 kids. One day I was at church with a bunch of friends and one was complaining about how stressful it was to take her 3 kids to the grocery store. She looked up at me and said, “Oh, no, I can’t complain to you about this!”

  18. One time I had 3 children with me and a man said “Wow! You must have your hands full.” I said, “oh no, this is only half of them!”

  19. I love it! Nice to give someone a bit more perspective on having children.