… as much as I want to write something warm or witty or encouraging or insightful, the empty text box just seems to want to stay empty. This business of helping new kids settle in is hard work. The moods. The emotions. The ups and downs. I know it’s tough to BE the new kid too, and I have been doling out sympathy like a pez dispenser doles out sugar. But somehow it always comes down to mom — to set the tone, to clarify the boundaries, to dispense hugs, and to jolly the cranky. In recognition of the challenge of my task, my wonderful husband has decreed that I have a holiday. Tomorrow I am taking a rare day off. I’m going out to breakfast. I’m going to sit– just sit– in Barnes and Noble. I’m going to visit at least one of my sisters– maybe even several of them. I might even get over to spend a bit of time with Eldest. I am looking forward to it.

But for now: bed.

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  1. Wishing you a blessed day. I hope you will share the realities of what you are coping with. I find it helpful. Thank you for all you are doing in your life.

  2. Enjoy your time out, Mary. It is ok to be human!

  3. Enjoy that break, dear Mary. I will be praying time with your sisters and with Eldest will be restorative and refreshing for you. May the Lord meet you right in that B&N and give you the renewed strength you need to carry on after you return to your precious family.

    Isaiah 40:31

  4. Have a wonderful break. You deserve it.

  5. (((Mary))) You are such a good Mom. I hope you have a wonderful day!

    You inspire me!

  6. ((((Mary)))) Hugs to you as you take some time to refresh and renew your spirit. May God Himself hold you ever close as you seek to be His servant in all things. You are an inspiration to many. Please know that even during the hard times, you have touched the lives of so many here on your blog. The hard times are honest times too. ((hugs))

  7. I hope you have a lovely day off and it renews your spirit. It’s never easy and it sounds like you need this time for yourself.

  8. Ooo! Sounds like fun! When my husband and I get to have an evening to ourselves, we often go to Barnes and Noble because it’s just not that fun for me to go with the kiddies! I end up sitting at a squatty little table in the children’s section with whatever books I could grab on my way there. It’s fun to take a turn in the comfy “big-girl” chairs!

  9. Ohhh how nice! Enjoy your day! Make sure you tell us alllll about it when you get home.

  10. We too are integrating two new family members into our home and it is hard. There is so much to teach and so much to learn and it does seem to all fall back to Mom doesn’t it?

    I am glad you are getting a break. Have a great day to yourself.

  11. Well deserved, enjoy your day!

  12. I hear ya 🙂 I feel strongly that there should be a “Homeschool Mama” holiday once a year 😉 The public school teachers get them, why shouldnt we?

    Enjoy your day off, do something just for you- sit and read that book that you have been dying to read but couldnt find the time… Visit with your sisters and talk about things that you just havent had the time nor the energy to talk about.

    Tomorrow is all about you 🙂


  13. Yay! May your day be filled with quiet, peace, and all the other things you wish for! And may you return home ready!
    Blessings & hugs!

  14. heretodayghanatomorrow says:

    Mary, Enjoy your day! We need those sometimes. It is so important to take them when you need them without guilt. What is it called? Filling your basket or cup or whatever!!? See I can’t even remember! I am about due for one myself!

  15. I find it to be much easier to care for others if you are first able to care for yourself. Enjoy your day!

  16. It’s SO good to hear your honesty….that it’s hard work. I can’t imagine that it would be anything but hard at times (though wonderful, joyfilled, and amazing nonetheless!!). Still praying for that adjustment and the bonding!!!

    Thanks again for sharing!!! I hope you have a wonderful day off!!!!!

  17. Enjoy your time 🙂 Love ya!

  18. ps–that siga wat sounds incredible! Feel free to invite me over next time you have it 🙂

  19. bloginmyeye says:

    I know just how you feel (well, minus 7 or 8 children!!), but you are setting a wonderful example by not hiding your head in a computer screen and also by taking some much needed time away. Enjoy!!

  20. A break well deserved. You’re such an inspiration Mary.

  21. just be. “for such a time as this” (((hugs)))

  22. Hooray for a day at Barnes & Noble! A well-deserved treat! I’ve really enjoyed reading about your girls’ homecoming–many blessings to all of you!

  23. Good for you, Mary!! And many kudos to that brilliant husband of yours. I hope your day is blessed beyond measure.

  24. Enjoy your time!

  25. Mary, I hope you had a wonderful day! I have to be brutally honest when I read this post it made me feel normal. You always seem so calm and just matter-of-fact about having a zillion kids in your home. I have two 2 yr. olds and I am exhausted! You are a wonderful mother and an incredible role model and I am always inspired by your writings.

  26. take the time. xo and hugs

  27. Sounds like a nice day to relax… enjoy and make it count!

  28. I can only imagine the adjusting going on in your home, for everyone.
    Have an absolutely BLESSED day!

  29. Now the trick is to try to stay out of the adoption/attachment/parenting… sections at Barnes and Noble! I pray that your day is restful and rejuvenating.

  30. Hope you enjoyed the break. So hard for mom to get away.

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