Mother’s Day Ramble

We had a nice low key day and I got lots of extra hugs, and a little extra pampering. But I’m restless. Some of my children are so very far away, and I don’t know when I will see them. We’re hoping that this week our dossier will go to Ethiopia. (fingers crossed!!) After that, it will likely be in the range of at least 10-12 weeks before they come home… maybe sometime in August if all goes well.

Did I tell you our girls got birthdays last week? In Ethiopia birthdays are not a big deal. The majority of kids don’t have any records of the exact day they were born. So in most cases the adoption agencies just have to assign birthdays.

The workers in Ethiopia decided that our girls looked more like 9 and 11 instead of 8 and 10, which after comparing their measurements to our 9 year old sons seems right to me too. They are 1 and 2 inches taller than our boys who both turn 9 this spring, and within 5 pounds of the boys’ weights–a little taller and a littl leaner than our guys. We were thrilled that the girls ended up with birthday months of September and January. Our kids now have birthdays in every month except October and August–each in their own month.

We’ve been thinking of names for the girls. We think we’ll keep their Ethiopian names as their first names. (Oh, how I want to break my ‘keep-kids’-names-private’ blog-rule to share them with you!) They’re pretty names and the girls are old enough that it doesn’t feel right to us to change them. But we’d like them to have American middle names. Anybody have any nice girl names to suggest?

Hope you all had a lovely day!

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  1. It seems impossible to suggest nice middle names without knowing the first names, although I fully respect the rule. I think, though, that it would be nice to give them some names with family roots. Something about giving them Grandma’s middle name seems very permanent to me, and I would hope to them as well. Not that adopting them and bringing them into the family isn’t permanent enough, but names are so important to me and really add roots to a person.

    Given that they are older girls, they may have some American names that they already know and like. Perhaps you could offer them a few suggestions and let them pick, or vice versa. I’d suggest including them in the process, but I know nothing about adopting older kids and what lines are best established one way or another.

    Finally (man, what a comment!), that’s great that each kid still has a distinct birthday month! We had that in our family growing up that all 6 kids plus mom & dad each had our own month. We joked when we got married that you had to marry someone in your own month or one of the 2 leftover months, or you had to get permission to bring in a month-sharer! 😉 So far so good (I share my month with my husband, my brother married a July girl, no sharing) but the grandbabies are starting to trespass on other people birthmonths!

  2. Hmm…I like the names “Jane” and “Sydney.” Simple and classic, yet elegant and becoming.

    If it assists with the “keep-kids’-names-private” blog rule dilemma, I’ve noticed that a couple of times your littlest one’s name has slipped onto the Ethiopian blog (don’t worry, I’ve sworn myself to secrecy). Just a friendly nudge into sharing, but I totally understand where you’re coming from and respect that decision 🙂

    Congratulations, again, Mary…those smiles are going to have eaten away your heart by August 🙂

  3. Pretty soon that banner at the top of your page will have 2 new characters.
    I understand the no kids name rule. We follow it as well. Although I am always curious about international names esp. when they come to America. When one of my great grands came over his name was inadvertently changed from Soren Peterson to Peter Sorenson.

  4. I always said that if we had been able to have more children, and they were girls, I would have given them names after flowers. Lily. Rose. Daisy. So beautiful and sweet.

  5. Congrats on moving so quickly with this adoption! We will probably be bringing our son home from China right around the same time you bring your girls home.

    DH and I are thinking about adopting from Ethiopia in the future. I hope I can move at lightening speed like you!

  6. I’m so excited for you guys! It must be just like getting ready to bring home a new baby in some ways. Can’t wait to hear how everything works out!!

  7. My daughter would say Grace – that’s one of her favourites. And last night she added Rachel.

    She likes to play Sims and always needs new names for her “babies” 🙂

    Glad you had a lovely Mother’s Day – and I’m praying for you as all the details are worked out for the adoption of your girls!

  8. What a wonderful read your blog was today! After reading your entry, the names, Naomi and Ruth came to mind for your new daughters.
    I am so happy for you.

  9. In our house we have always loved Liberty ~ Freedom in Christ. How true when some children will never know the love of the Lord until they come to America where they will be FREE!!

    We also like Freedom…..but we like unusual names 🙂

  10. Hope and Charity

  11. Alecia Chaffee says:

    Dear Mary,
    I am delurking to chat with you about a few things. I have so enjoyed your blog for at least a year now. You have such great advice and wisdom.
    My question is , How did you know the Lord wanted you to adopt.? My husband and I have been interested in missions for many years. I am an OB nurse also and he works at a bank. In March , I was given the oppurtunity to go on a medical mission to Cambodia. It was life changing to say the very least. My heart was so drawn to the children. I told my husband and he understood. We are being stirred. We have both decided to pray continually about this for one year before we make any decisions. Is that too long? We have 3 children now and are very open to this. Financially though , it would be hard for us to come up with a large amount right now.
    I would really value your opinion. Thanks so much for listening.
    Alecia C.

    P.S. We are really drawn to Asian children, perhaps Vietnam…………..

  12. I’m so excited for your family! I’m wondering our 2 boys will be home in time for Mother’s Day next year. We are just getting started, so I don’t know.

    Anyway, I like the name Ruby and Lucy.


  13. Your girls are old enough that it might be cool to let them pick their own American names, or get some suggestions from them.

  14. How about Ajna or Layla after me :0) Love reading your blog.

  15. Ms McF–Yes, I have used my little ones’ Ethiopian (middle)names over there….


  16. “Our kids now have birthdays in every month except October and August–each in their own month.”

    Hmmm. . . Sounds like this problem could be fixed with another adoption . . .


  17. Ms. McFearsome–you managed to pick my middle name and my husband’s (Sidney).

    My suggestions: Anna, Charity, Elizabeth, Esther, Eve, Faith, Hannah, Joy, Leah, Lucinda, Martha, Michelle, Rebecca, and Susanna are names I like that have not been suggested yet (from my fairly long short list). Names you’re less likely to use are Maranatha, Hosanna, Victory, Glory, and Mara or Mary. Not really “American names” either…

    Another idea might be to ask them about their favorite bible stories…

  18. In my family middle names tend to honor a family member. Our son got his father’s name for a middle name and our daughter got my grandmother’s name for her middle name. I think this tradition got reinforced because my grandfather, Amos Joseph, wanted a grandson to get his name. So there are a whole bunch with the middle name Joseph. Somehow the practice spread to the girls and I think it’s lovely. While I like the name I was given, I wish that I had one name that tied me to my ancestors.

    My suggestion is to combine that with letting the girls choose for themselves since they are old enough. Perhaps a family tree that they can peruse and then select an name from it that they like?

  19. summerain (aka Alicia says:

    Dear Mary,

    I was looking for information on blow drying my daughers hair and came across your blog where you blow dry your daughter’s hair. It looked great. I do not know about you but i am always trying to find an easier way to manage my daughter’s hair – she is 15 and we are still trying to figure out the best way to do her hair. When she was small like yours – I braided her hair in about 10 braids on each side and it hung like a bob – it last about a week and can be washed in that style and tied down at night. In the summer I would cornroll her hair with a part down the middle and put a bead or two on the front braids – she loved that. We would also do twist – which is like braids, but smaller and with 2 strands of hair. It hangs like a bob again and is easier to take out. As she got older and wanted to do her own hair – we tried a perm to straighten – which i do not reccommend, and pressing – which is good for special occasions. Right now she sports a puffy ponytail and once in while we press so she can curl her hair. This weekend we my try blow drying for the fun of it. It was good to come across your blog – Alicia