At lunchtime on Friday…

..John and I had a conversation I suspect I won’t forget. To understand the significance of the moment, you need to know a little more about our relationship. For starters we are both first-borns, both as bullheaded as they come. Though we have an unshakeable commitment to each other and a deep love for each other, we often have different ideas about day-to-day stuff.

Over the years I’ve increasingly learned the value of listening to him, and gained a growing respect for his good sense and judgement. I’m not quite as headstrong as I was at age 19. But even after 20 years there are still plenty of times we have to talk awhile to come to an agreement.

Friday at lunch time was not one of those times. Friday was one of those rare amazing times of perfect synergy, of walking hand in hand toward a shared destiny. We came to agreement with perfect ease, over a big, big decision, one that probably seems wacky to half of you reading. Only by God’s grace. ONLY by God’s grace. I wrote more about it on my Ethiopia blog, if you’re interested.

This morning I was sitting in church thinking of that decision, thinking of the children who, Lord-willing will be coming to our family sometime in 2008. I wondered if it was foolish to not be afraid… should we be rethinking it? Ten children…that’s a lot. But I kept going back in my mind to that wonderful conversation on Friday, where we mapped out a hopeful plan together, one that felt right to both our hearts. We’ve experienced that almost-magical agreement with each and every one of our adoptions — that moment of smiling into each other’s eyes and nodding in resolve.

Maybe worry will dog me later. Who knows, maybe John and I will come to a new decision next week. But for now it is enough to hold that gift of agreement close to my heart, and to look hopefully toward the future. This is the path we intend to take if God allows it. Praise God for harmony beyond understanding.


  1. Walk forward in faith! God gives us those perfect, confirming moments to look back on when the process or results start looking less than perfect. I’m so happy for you.

  2. Mary, that is so very exciting!

  3. AAAAAAAHHHHHH! That’s so exciting!

  4. Blessings to you! What excitement and adventure await.

  5. Such exciting news! I’ll be following your story closely. and with longing in my heart. Sadly, Q’s heart is still closed to adoption, since he feels we don’t ‘need’ to do it, but I can’t help feeling that another child is out there somewhere, waiting for us. I’m praying each day that his heart will be moved.

  6. How exciting! So very happy for you!

  7. Wow Mary. Wow. What a blessing to two precious children you will be. The more the merrier?? ((grin))

  8. Oh how wonderful Mary! Hooray!

  9. Oh, that sounds wonderful…I am so happy for you!! I can’t wait to hear more!! 🙂

  10. I am so excited for you guys! Are you thinking country yet, or not to that point? And, yeah, 10 is a lot….but I feel like probably everything over six or so starts to seem the same??

  11. congrats again!! I so admire you. I know, we could too… and maybe we will one day! 🙂

  12. Oh, Mary, how awesome! And I agree with your feelings (on your Ethiopian blog) about “choices” such as age and gender. It’s just a little bit of control that we can have in a situation that is otherwise so thoroughly out of our control. I’m looking forward to following this wonderful journey!

  13. Wow! How exciting for you! I’ve been thinking about trying to adopt another child (or two), but my husband’s not quite there yet. Maybe someday…

    In the meantime, all the best to you and John on your new adoption journey!

  14. The link is not currently working, but what I gather from your post sounds very exciting! How wonderful that you and your hubby agreed so readily! Looking forward to reading more about this new development… 🙂

  15. Mary, I just read this so I’m a little late with the congratulations, but HOORAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I’m just so very very happy for you guys, and for the children who will be joining you, and for the children you already have, and well just for everybody in any way remotely involved, including myself because I get to read about the journey!

  16. Oh my goodness! Congratulations!!! What wonderful news!

    I look forward to hearing about your journey to welcoming 2 new little ones into your life!

    Thank you for sharing this with us!

  17. What a wonderful journey you are begining. I read this today after reading about the “sucking lips’ above and thought to myself, maybe I need to kiss that husband more often too. 🙂 My husband is not quiet ready to adopt yet, he worries about “finances” has with each ‘birth’ child we have had and worries even more with the idea of adoption. I pray often for his mind and heart and the financial issues he has to clear up and the road to open for adoption. Reading your blogs inspires me. I am going to follow your journey through your blog and probably share much of it with my dh. Thank you. 🙂

  18. Yea!! I thought that this might be your news. 🙂 How exciting!